Honest Talk for New Mothers: things they don’t tell you at the antenatal classes
A book born out of the desire to help new mums, Honest Talk for New Mothers is not just another baby book. It is about the new mum, written with the purpose of helping her adjust and grow into this life-changing role.
Most books about motherhood focus on pregnancy and baby advice, not the experience of the mother. It’s true that pregnancy, birth and baby care are extremely important; but you can’t neglect to prepare yourself for the transformative journey into motherhood.
That’s why this book focuses solely on you, the new mother, as opposed to focusing on the needs of your baby.
Becoming a mother is the biggest possible event a woman can experience. The changes are profound, yet women are not well enough prepared. It’s time to change that.
Based on interviews with mothers and professionals working with mums, this book presents the reality of early motherhood: the joy, the fear, the tears, the world turning upside down, the changes, and how to prepare for them.
Why do new mothers need to read this book?
Women are often shown unrealistic images of motherhood by the media. When the harsh reality hits them it can be a shock. It can create all kinds of negative feelings, such as inadequacy, low self-esteem, and depression.
Many women suffer. The rates of postnatal depression are soaring, with several mothers suffering in silence. And when the mother’s wellbeing suffers, that’s not good for the baby either.
Just knowing what to really expect could make a huge difference in how a new mum navigates the difficult waters of early motherhood. This book offers a helping hand by talking openly, and honestly about what changes to expect, and how to prepare for them.
How can this book help you?
The book explores important issues such as the identity shift most new mums experience and why it’s normal to feel like a completely different person; why planning ahead for a number of scenarios is absolutely essential; or why it’s important to let go of the idea of “perfect”.
If you’re currently pregnant with your first child, or have recently become a mother, then this book is for you. So let me ask you:
Would you like to know what becoming a new mum is really like?
Would you like to hear what advice seasoned mums would give, with hindsight, to new mums?
Would you like to know the opinion of professionals so you’re reassured that how you feel is normal?
Then don’t hesitate – get your copy now. Honest Talk for New Mothers is available from Amazon both as an ebook and as a paperback.
Why was this book written?
“Have you been told the ins and outs of giving birth, but not how your world will actually change once the baby arrives?”
“You carefully thought out your birth plan; but have you planned for life as a new mum?”
I wish someone asked me these questions when I was pregnant. When I became a mum, I was surprised by how much I didn’t know what motherhood would be like, even though I had read everything I could find about pregnancy and babies. I thought I was well-prepared – and yet, when I finally held my newborn in my arms, I couldn’t help feeling that something was missing.
No one told me what was going to happen to me.
Things were tough; and as I started asking other mums I quickly realised that I wasn’t the only one who found it difficult. They all did.
They all found that they knew everything about pregnancy and birth; but becoming a mother, being a mother was about something else. So many of them said to me “I wish someone had told me that…” – and that’s why I wrote this book.
I interviewed mums and professionals about the emotional journey into motherhood. The love and joy, but also the unpleasant things: the fear, the tears, the world turning upside down. Because it matters. Women should feel empowered and prepared for the reality, so it doesn’t come as a shock. That’s what this book is about.
Gabriella Ignácz (MA, MSc) is a wellbeing educator and author. She believes everyone is entitled to wellbeing and happiness, and is dedicated to helping people find joy in living. She is particularly passionate about empowering mothers and helping them have a positive experience through motherhood – because if mum is well and happy, that’s the best thing she could give to her children.
This book would not be the same without the artist Roz Down’s contribution. Roz studied art in college but it wasn’t until years later that she discovered painting and drawing were very therapeutic and a way to channel her emotions. After years of working and living abroad in a number of counties, she now lives in Hitchin, a creative and artistic town in England. For more please visit her website Roz’s Art House.
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